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I'm coming back to this post several months later to finish it. I can't even believe how much our marriage has changed in the last ten months. We love, we laugh, we smile, we cry, it's emotional. We are two humans, in two different bodies who perceive, feel and experience two different worlds as they coexist into one that is our family unit.
Sometimes, getting along with another person is hard. It often makes me think of when you are kids and your parents leave you to work through a disagreement until you get along. You would think as an adult you knew how to always get along with another adult. We have to always be figuring out new and creative ways to work through arguments, as well as get to know this person with whom we are journeying through the world.
Now we are almost at six years. I haven't a clue how six years ever went by so quickly. Marriage constantly molds you. I think we spend a good amount of time putting dents in each other. We challenge each other, we butt heads, and, yes, we even hurt each other.
I have found that one thing about allowing yourself to be most vulnerable to another person is that you allow yourselves to both love and hurt each other more than anyone else on this earth knows how. So then you also have to learn to heal through the marriage aches. I don't recall anyone ever mentioning this. In fact, I have never heard of anyone including healthy healing into a healthy marriage. No one ever told me that someone who loved me so much could also hurt me so much. Now, I mean we don't abuse each other. We definitely hurt each other's feelings. When you have given someone your heart, you give up part possession of it. You give up control. When two hearts are on the line, with two human souls in charge, we sometimes make mistakes. We don't always say the right words. We don't always do the right things. We get angry. We laugh at both good and bad times. Marriage sounds great right now, doesn't it.
Through both the good and the bad you have part possession of your heart and part possession of your partners. Therefore, it is of the utmost importance to remember that in some sense you are a guardian to their heart.